In the excitement of a new relationship, it’s easy to explain away behaviour that should give you pause. Spotting these warning signs early can save a lot of heartache.
We’ve counted down from eight to the most serious red flag of all.
8. Every ex was "crazy"
If all of their past partners were the villain of the story, it’s worth wondering what part they played.
It’s not proof of anything on its own, but it’s a pattern worth noticing.
7. Never taking responsibility
Everything is always someone else’s fault, and they rarely, if ever, apologise.
A partner who can’t admit mistakes will make it very hard to solve problems together.
6. Lies that don't add up
Stories that change, details that don’t match and small lies about unimportant things all erode trust.
If you often feel confused about what’s true, pay attention to that feeling.
5. Ignoring your boundaries
If you say no and they push, sulk or try to change your mind, take note. Respecting boundaries, big and small, is essential.
How someone reacts to a small “no” tells you how they’ll handle bigger ones.
4. Moving very fast
Declarations of love within days, pressure to move in quickly or talk of marriage on the third date can feel flattering, but they can also be a way of rushing you before you can see clearly.
Good relationships can wait.
3. Constant jealousy
A flicker of jealousy is human. Constant suspicion, accusations and demands to know who you’ve been talking to are not.
Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and you shouldn’t have to keep proving yourself.
2. Cutting you off from friends and family
A partner who complains when you see your friends, picks fights before family events or wants you all to themselves is slowly isolating you.
Healthy partners want you to have a full life outside the relationship.
1. Controlling behaviour
Checking your phone, telling you what to wear, tracking where you are or controlling your money are serious warning signs, not signs of love.
If a partner’s behaviour makes you feel afraid or controlled, talk to someone you trust. In the UK, the free, 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline is on 0808 2000 247.
Which red flags would you add to the list? Tell us in the comments.
